People With Depression Cannot ‘Snap Out Of It’
People with depression cannot “snap out of it.” My moods change frequently, and I am currently depressed. There is nothing more depressing than suffering from depression and still feeling sad. So, what’s the point? Will it pass? No doubt. I forget what it’s like to smile, and I mean for more than a couple hours now; I’m talking about now, not later. I forget what it’s like to be a lovely or loving person, or if I ever was such a person at all – one of love, of goodness, of graciousness. I forget how it feels to truly live, much less how to live life to the fullest. I just exist. Right now, I simply exist, with my pulse and my breath and maybe some tears, if I am even able to let them roll a river down my face and flood the seas and the world with them, to get them out. I try to get myself out of this mood. This life. This episode of depression. Sure, I’ll return to normal. Sure. Still, I have temporarily lost the point of living a life, pretending to smile or laugh, or getting a joke every darn hour when there are people around me who only want to see me happy. Well, I am not happy, and overall I have not been happy for most of my life. If anything, I glamorize the past, and even the present, sometimes. It’ll pass, but that’s not the point. The point is how I feel now. The point is right now.
Yes, I know it will pass. I know people love me, but I do not currently know what that should feel like. I just can’t remember. I feel so lost. Gone. Yet I continue, and therefore I “inspire,” I’m often told, but I am still depressed. I am still in this chair, writing out this rubbish because it gets so overbearing I can’t tell you. I’m not alone. I know that, too, but that feels and sounds so contrived and lackluster, uninspiring, to me right now.
I pretend to be so damn nice and funny and charming for others, just for “them,” so I don’t lose a Facebook friend or whatnot. Nevertheless, I have zero real-life friends. I’m not sure if I ever have had any. Well, maybe, sort of, but they probably felt sorry for me. Who cares? I don’t know. I am not even my own friend. This has been true for most of my life. I got into a good school, which I didn’t even belong in. I lived my former Hollywood life, which never did anything for me worthwhile. I exaggerate about how cool that time in my life was, way back, back in the day. Now, I can barely move. I can barely see. I’ve been here many times, so don’t worry about me. Just send a hug, as if I’d ever feel any real hug; virtual hugs are probably better because there is no effort involved. No feeling, and I can just barely feel.
This is why I write this kind of stuff. “Just keep writing,” says that little voice in my head, “Get it all out, all that you can.” Do it now. Now. Now. Now. Get me out of right now. Remind me of some clever quote or cliché, reminding me how they are just reminders over and over again of how hard it actually is, in this case for anyone, to do, let go, move on, it’ll pass, it’ll pass, and so forth.
I pretend to live, pretending to be myself, as if that would ring true. “Oh, that’s just your mental illness speaking,” some say. Well, then I guess I am just one full bag of happiness, and I am over it. Did I snap out of it? Of course. And again, I will get out of this depressed state, just not now, and I will do it only to see it return. I am incapable of getting but one positive thought out, so I am sorry for not pretending right now, even for just a minute. Maybe I still am pretending. I am sick, twisted, and wrong. I don’t belong.
Other people have it worse. I suppose I don’t deserve or have the right to be depressed. I need to think about them. Poor them. Hate me. Sometimes I pretend to love the life I live. What’s the point? As Faulkner said, basically, the reason to live is to get ready to stay dead a long time. Okay, thanks, Mr. Faulkner.
Seriously, what is the point? Tell me about it, about how we are all just here winging it, trying to get by. I am not “getting by.” I watch the clock and wait, and wait, and wait for tomorrow. Oh, how sad and pitiful. Get rid of this guy, this guy Jonathan. Hell, I can’t even walk two feet without being right here with myself, as myself. There is no escape.
I just know hope; it’s that same hope that gets me and brings me back here, for now. Tell me the point and I’ll tell you why I am so damn me, but it doesn’t mean I’m really proud of this. Make me understand you as I try to do the same. People with depression cannot “snap out of it.” Until my next episode, and otherwise until next time…
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I know those feelings all to well